A great night, a great weekend

Saturday night Mistress and I met up with another couple who also enjoy a female led relationship. I have met the guy before so I knew we got along fine, but it was the first time either of the girls were present.

Honestly we didn't talk too much about things of the FLR nature as we were in a restaurant with others around. But I think that made it better in many ways. We were able to connect on regular life things instead of focusing on the common theme in our relationship.

Turned out to be an awesome time. Mistress really liked both of them and we are looking forward to meeting up again soon.

Was this surprising? In some ways not but there is also a part of me that was a bit concerned. My Mistress, although she can get along with many people doesn't do too well with people she finds less than genuine, especially women like that. As it turned out there was no worries there. Both of the people are nice, down to earth, funny and intriguing and believe it or not they even dealt with my dry sense of humor without rolling their eyes.

I suppose finding a couple to meet that we share the same type of relationship style with is a good thing. But we were hoping to find actual friends that we had our relationship style in common with. From the first meeting it seems that is the case.

Sunday was a bit different, After some golf in the early afternoon and at the same time listening to our home town Lions suck, right up until the last 5 minutes of the game and pull out a big win against New Orleans, we went home and Mistress did some reading for work, I had some stuff to do as well, including ironing her clothes and laundry. She made dinner (which I usually do but what we were having was something she loves to cook) and the plan was for me to iron the clothes, do some cleaning until dinner then eat, clean up and relax for the rest of the evening. Mistress decided to change that plan. While dinner was cooking and I was upstairs taking care of the ironing she decided to put out Halloween decorations in our family room. While doing this she found that there was a larger build up of dust then she was expecting. Before dinner she had me kneel in front of her so she could speak with me. This always allows her to get my undivided attention and accentuate that what is saying isn't up for debate, she explained to me that she understood with the wedding, summer and just being busy that some things were hard to keep up with in regards to cleaning. She then told me that she decided that I needed to focus on cleaning more now and after dinner I could count on going back to work for a while. She also said that after work every day this week I would be spending time taking care of some of the details that have been lacking with regard to the housework until she is satisfied things are back to where they should be.

One thing I have to say is I love my life and my Mistress.

Still feels different

So a month of marriage and things still feel a bit different.

I have set into a comfort zone knowing that she is permanently in charge, not that she wasn't before but the change has left us both with a comfortable and secure feeling I believe.

This Saturday we will be meeting up with friends. A similar couple to us, a dominant woman and submissive man. The two of us guys have met and grown a friendship but this will be the first time the girls meet each other, or either of us guys meet the others wife. In some ways I wonder how one treats the dominant wife of a friend. The easy answer is just as any other friend but there is that side of me that wonders if in time there would be some expectation to be somewhat obedient to her. Not the same as my Mistress but more in a sign of respect. I guess the next easy answer is to not think about things like that and let my Mistress decide things like that over time. Anyways it will be a fun time and I am looking forward to it.

Also recently I have been reading about some couples that live more extreme in their Female Led Relationship than us. One has separate bedrooms so that the woman may have free time with other men while he is safe and secure in a separate room, close enough to hear what is going on but far enough away to not bother her.

I have been thinking a lot about this lately. Not because what they are doing is wrong, no if they are both happy then more power to them. But more about a comment he made about not being able to touch his wife as she prefers others. I will say that that man is much stronger than me. I obey my wife but we are also best friends, if I was set aside and not wanted for love. If my wife wanted to be touched and loved but not by me and if I didn't get to feel the loving touch of my wife how would I react? I would be devastated. I am not sure if that is a sign of weakness on my part or not but I just couldn't handle it.

I suppose if there was ever a time where she wanted to experiment with someone else I would accept it, I obey her and want her to be happy, as long as we were still the inseparable twosome that we are. I can't stand to be away from her for a day let alone sleep in a separate room knowing she is close by but prefers to be with someone else.

I guess in the end we all have our own ways and things that make us happy. I know by reading what that guy said he is happy with the relationship but I can't see anyway I could be in the same type of relationship. When you have an unequal relationship a lot of thought and communication has to go into it to make sure each person is happy.

I guess the moral of this is that there are many different aspects of a female led relationship that make us all different, everyone has their ideas on what makes them happy and I know that what is good for us probably might not be the same for another couple. I am learning not to judge others and certainly haven't in this case but when you put yourself in anothers shoes wow it can be eye opening.

First post after getting married

The last few weeks have been extremely busy with our wedding.

Finally things have settled a bit. The wedding was awesome, we had the best time and everything went perfect, the weather was also great.

Since the wedding things have got back to normal.

Last Thursday I received my first punishment post wedding day. I admit it had a different feel. Mistress was very nonchalant about the whole thing. To me it had the feel of her being in full power.

Most of the time I am told to lay over the bed because.....

This time she grabbed her crop, tapped the bed and said, "Lay down."

When I said, "Yes, Mistress, may I ask why?"

I was told, "Just do as your told." After it was over I received a reasoning but at the time she felt no need or desire to explain herself. This is a change for us and it made me feel secure. Like just follow and everything will be ok.

Also we went out to eat last night and when I ordered fries with my fish she interrupted and said, "Make that a baked potato for him." She has never done that before and again it gave me a good feeling, although slightly embarrassing.

Ok everyone, it's glad to be back. Have a good day.

Woo, Sorry.

Wow, where has the time went. Been over a month since my last post. Busy times for sure.

Things are good Wedding is less than two weeks away. That has left no time for much of anything.

Preparations are coming along nicely but still it's not leaving time for much of anything else. Visitors coming in, kids staying with us so the empty nest we enjoy so much is temporarily out of order.

Its all good though, looking forward to the return of normalcy once the wedding is over.

Mistress and I talked about it and we are both really looking forward to the wedding day. AND Looking forward to it being over. Just a lot of stress dotting the I's crossing the T's.

I miss my submission. And Mistress' dominance. I wouldn't say its gone completely as it is always there between the two of us. Even when in a crowded theater.

I maybe not post before the wedding but will be back hopefully soon after.

thanks everyone.

Hey!!!

Hey everybody!!!

Busy summer with not a lot to report. Things are good here and hope the same is true for all of you.

Lots of happenings, preparing for our wedding, golfing and work to name a few.

One thing did happen two days ago. Things were busy in the morning and I left before presenting myself to Mistress and showing her which panties I was wearing for the day. Half way thru the day she reminded me about it and said, "That will cost you of course."

The next day it was supposed to rain, assuming we wouldn't be able to do any after work activities I picked a pair of panties that aren't good for activities..they don't hold things in so well if you might imagine. Well we get home from work and it's sunny so Mistress asks "Want to golf today?" I answer, "Sure" Then as we are getting ready I realize the panties I am wearing will be quite difficult to golf in. So I ask her extremely nicely if I can change them before we leave.

She smiles and says, "No I think you will just have to deal with those and each time it's uncomfortable it should remind you of what you didn't do properly yesterday."

So I have to admit the punishment was very effective and I think it caused my score to be a few strokes higher than usual. Mistress and I tied in score. She commented that maybe she should make me wear those to golf in more often. Probably wasn't a good idea for her to learn that information.

Ok everyone, hope your summer continues longer than the one in Michigan will end up lasting. I think it will be over soon.

Advice

Mistress and I are starting to plan our honeymoon, we will be going early next year.

We are looking to go to an all inclusive in the Caribbean somewhere. We want to have lots of opportunities to golf.

If anyone has some advice on good places to go let me know I would love to hear your thoughts.

So, World Cup is over, Germany won....Yayyyy. Now it's back to normal summer living.

Things are still super busy but this will be one less distraction, still a wedding to continue preparing for and home improvements to continue working on. Not to mention Golf.

I guess this is one of those times where I need to pay special attention to my Mistress. Times like this it can get easy to forget the small things, the things she enjoys but probably won't complain about, flowers once in a while, a card under the pillow, that sort of thing. I made a promise to myself that I would never forget those small signs to show her how much I love her, so no matter how busy things get, no matter how long we have been together it still needs to stay close to my mind, not to let things slip.

Yes, it can be hard when there is so many things that need to be done for work, home, etc. But seeing the smile on her face makes it much easier to keep up on the things that matter most. Taking care of Mistress.

Moments like these...

Ok, first I know I suck as a regular blogger during the summer. That's ok, things are just busy, busy is good and good is...well I guess good.

Although I have to say more than that lack of time to to blog the thing I like least is the time to read the other bloggers I love to read, Mistress Marie, I'm Hers, Sub hub in that warm city even in the wintertime, Kathy and many others. If I didn't mention you don't be upset, I still read all the blogs I subscribe to.

Well anyway, not much of an update but trouble is on the horizon for me later today.

Mistress wanted to wear a certain skirt to work the other day, it was hung in the closet but needed to be ironed. Oops that passed by me when I put stuff away. She let it slide and said she would wear something else and would wear that skirt on Thursday....Well (Well the universal word for things didn't quite go as planned), I got home yesterday after work and really was planning on doing it before I did anything else. However (universal word to reason why things didn't go as planned) Argentina vs Netherlands were on TV, tied, 30 minutes to go before overtime.

Of course I watched and in the middle of overtime Mistress comes home and wants to golf. Sooo (universal word for more excuses on the way) we watch the end of the game, and head out the door quickly to golf before daylight escapes us.

Golf was great and we had a wonderful time. We didn't get home until almost 9:30 and the skirt is now completely out of my mind.

The evening moves on, we finally head to bed and both have a good night sleep.

This morning was a pretty normal morning except for the fact that I had to leave for work early. Not a big deal until Mistress pulls her skirt out again. IT ISN'T IRONED!!

Now because I am walking out the door for an appointment there is no time to do it right there on the spot.

She says, "I know you have to go, I suppose you realize you are going to pay for that later, right?"

I answer, "Yes, I know."

She smiles kisses me goodbye, says "I love you." and follows it with. "Try not to think about being in trouble." then chuckles.

I first tried to think of something to say but I did the right thing, made no excuses and just said my goodbye, apologized and left for the day.

Needless to say I have been wondering all day about what she will decide. I know that is part of her plan and her method to make the punishment effective. And of course it is.