Well another long absence form posting. My reason this time...Death in the family. The loss of my Dad around the holidays really sent the month of January in free fall.
After a while things have gotten back to normal, well as normal as possible but truth is this is the new normal and the old normal will never return. That is life and we must move past it. I have done so, maybe with a piece of me gone forever but still life is back to a sense of normalcy.
Work has been so busy, (no complaint here) that I am afraid until that changes I won't be able to post with the same frequency as I once did. Its another example that life just changes and we have to change with it. I will always post, maybe just not as much as I would like...although maybe more than some would wish. LOL.
Our FLM, is going wonderfully. The last few weeks especially has found Mistress in a dominating way and me enjoying every moment of it. Empty nest since Mid January always helps in that regard.
Punishments have been down for me lately. Mistress has been happy with my performance lately but sometimes I wonder if I like that or not. In the end my goal is to make her happy, The less punishment she doles out means the less she has been annoyed by my behavior so less punishment = happier mistress. As a result happier Mistress = happier sub. Hmmmm so then by that logic less punishment = happier sub? Not necessarily. I guess I will have to contemplate that some more. I guess in some ways punishment is a certain type of attention that is given to me by Mistress. I get plenty of attention from her, so the quantity of attention isn't an issue. Its just the spice of life and the type of attention that must be the issue here. As I said I will contemplate and probably figure nothing out but I will contemplate none the less.
We have met a couple times with our fellow FLM couple since last post. We are looking forward to the next get together but unfortunately they got some bad news and had a loss in their family as well. Mistress and I are sending prayers and condolences. I certainly can relate to the situation.
Looking forward to Valentines day, we are going to go away for a weekend to celebrate but not this weekend. We will have a couple week delay in our valentine weekend but I am sure we will still have a great time on Saturday.
To everyone out there, have a great Valentines day, hope your families are all healthy and remember to tell loved ones how much they are loved, you never know when that time will come.
Thursday, February 12, 2015
Tuesday, December 23, 2014
Thankful
Whatever you celebrate this time of year. I wish everyone the best. One thing about this time of year, it gives rise to reflection of the past year and looking forward to the next. No matter how your year has been there is reason to look forward. If it was a great year then you might be looking for a continuation. If it was a bad year, maybe a new year will bring in better things for you and your family.
For me I have a lot to be thankful of, life is good, not perfect, but good. And with that so is my life as a submissive. I have a lot to be thankful for in that regard as well. I decided to list a few reasons.
For my submissive life (Not in order of importance)
1. Becoming more comfortable in our lifestyle for me and my wife. Every year brings a new level of understanding and change.
2. We met a fellow couple that shares our Female led life and it has been great to get to know them. We continue to meet up and get to know each other. Maybe the best part is they aren't FLR friends. They are friends period that just happen to share a same way of authority at home. As I have said, you need more than just FLR to make things successful, that goes for relationships and with friends. Look forward to the next year and continued fun.
3. Accepting myself for who I am. Since 4 years ago when I admitted to Mistress what I truly am, it has been a long road of accepting it for me. When you know what you are inside but keep it bottled up for 44 years it can be tough when it finally comes out, It has to be dealt with and you have to learn to accept yourself for who you are. Its not as easy as you would think but each year brings a further level of acceptance.
4. My Mistress, she is the love of my life, FLR or not, But she has helped me so much understand that what I am is OK. She has also made everything possible in my submissive life up to this point. Without her I wouldn't be experiencing any of my submissive desires. I can never be thankful enough for what she has done for me.
From the non submissive part of my life I have much to be thankful for as well but I won't bore you with the details. I did get married this year and that has been one life changing event that occurred in 2014.
So whatever your celebration reason this holiday season, I wish you all the best.
For me I have a lot to be thankful of, life is good, not perfect, but good. And with that so is my life as a submissive. I have a lot to be thankful for in that regard as well. I decided to list a few reasons.
For my submissive life (Not in order of importance)
1. Becoming more comfortable in our lifestyle for me and my wife. Every year brings a new level of understanding and change.
2. We met a fellow couple that shares our Female led life and it has been great to get to know them. We continue to meet up and get to know each other. Maybe the best part is they aren't FLR friends. They are friends period that just happen to share a same way of authority at home. As I have said, you need more than just FLR to make things successful, that goes for relationships and with friends. Look forward to the next year and continued fun.
3. Accepting myself for who I am. Since 4 years ago when I admitted to Mistress what I truly am, it has been a long road of accepting it for me. When you know what you are inside but keep it bottled up for 44 years it can be tough when it finally comes out, It has to be dealt with and you have to learn to accept yourself for who you are. Its not as easy as you would think but each year brings a further level of acceptance.
4. My Mistress, she is the love of my life, FLR or not, But she has helped me so much understand that what I am is OK. She has also made everything possible in my submissive life up to this point. Without her I wouldn't be experiencing any of my submissive desires. I can never be thankful enough for what she has done for me.
From the non submissive part of my life I have much to be thankful for as well but I won't bore you with the details. I did get married this year and that has been one life changing event that occurred in 2014.
So whatever your celebration reason this holiday season, I wish you all the best.
Monday, November 17, 2014
Second Meeting/Life is good
Yeah, I know, I don't post enough, now that snow has arrived I will make a effort to do better. Life is so busy and with busy comes responsibilities and with that comes less time than I would like to do things like blog.
With that in mind life is good for us, Mistress has had some work stress recently get worked out so hopefully that will pass for her. Doldrums of winter are beginning early this year so we have to make an effort to stay active. Yesterday finally got the last of the leaves off the lawn. So I guess we are officially ready for winter in Michigan.
As I said Mistress has been a little stressed at work and with that it leaves me to be more of a self starter at home in regards to cleaning. By the time she mentions something needs to be done it's already to the point where she isn't happy. It can be a challenge but I enjoy challenges.
Lately she has changed her tactics a bit as well, punishments more often involve corner time or sentences more than the "laying over the bed" method. I think this is because it's easier for her and in some ways I think she finds this to be more effective. Especially when she might say one sentence to me and it causes me 2 hours of punishment. I guess effectiveness /effort level on her part is large ratio in the positive direction. Although I must say I am completely guessing about this as she keeps her reasons to herself in these matters.
This past weekend we had our second night out with fellow FLR couple we met with a month or so ago. We had a great time again and I actually feel funny saying "FLR friends" they are friends first but just happen to ascribe to the same values at home as we do. Mistress and I talked on the drive home how much fun we have with them and how a few hours flew by so quickly. We are already looking at plans for the next get together.
When we decided to begin trying to meet others that share our views I was first a bit disappointed, I joined Fetlife and while the people we met, (even attending a munch) were very nice and we had a good time with them, we just didn't feel we fit in. I was worried that this would be the case with others we met. What I think I am finding out is the difference between people who want to experience D/s in general are different from those of us who just live with the woman in charge.
Either way, it's nice to make new friends and we look forward to new experiences with them as time move on.
Thanks to I'm, Hers for introducing us. Now don't let your vacuuming slide past Sunday when you were told to do it. LOL.
With that in mind life is good for us, Mistress has had some work stress recently get worked out so hopefully that will pass for her. Doldrums of winter are beginning early this year so we have to make an effort to stay active. Yesterday finally got the last of the leaves off the lawn. So I guess we are officially ready for winter in Michigan.
As I said Mistress has been a little stressed at work and with that it leaves me to be more of a self starter at home in regards to cleaning. By the time she mentions something needs to be done it's already to the point where she isn't happy. It can be a challenge but I enjoy challenges.
Lately she has changed her tactics a bit as well, punishments more often involve corner time or sentences more than the "laying over the bed" method. I think this is because it's easier for her and in some ways I think she finds this to be more effective. Especially when she might say one sentence to me and it causes me 2 hours of punishment. I guess effectiveness /effort level on her part is large ratio in the positive direction. Although I must say I am completely guessing about this as she keeps her reasons to herself in these matters.
This past weekend we had our second night out with fellow FLR couple we met with a month or so ago. We had a great time again and I actually feel funny saying "FLR friends" they are friends first but just happen to ascribe to the same values at home as we do. Mistress and I talked on the drive home how much fun we have with them and how a few hours flew by so quickly. We are already looking at plans for the next get together.
When we decided to begin trying to meet others that share our views I was first a bit disappointed, I joined Fetlife and while the people we met, (even attending a munch) were very nice and we had a good time with them, we just didn't feel we fit in. I was worried that this would be the case with others we met. What I think I am finding out is the difference between people who want to experience D/s in general are different from those of us who just live with the woman in charge.
Either way, it's nice to make new friends and we look forward to new experiences with them as time move on.
Thanks to I'm, Hers for introducing us. Now don't let your vacuuming slide past Sunday when you were told to do it. LOL.
Monday, October 20, 2014
A great night, a great weekend
Saturday night Mistress and I met up with another couple who also enjoy a female led relationship. I have met the guy before so I knew we got along fine, but it was the first time either of the girls were present.
Honestly we didn't talk too much about things of the FLR nature as we were in a restaurant with others around. But I think that made it better in many ways. We were able to connect on regular life things instead of focusing on the common theme in our relationship.
Turned out to be an awesome time. Mistress really liked both of them and we are looking forward to meeting up again soon.
Was this surprising? In some ways not but there is also a part of me that was a bit concerned. My Mistress, although she can get along with many people doesn't do too well with people she finds less than genuine, especially women like that. As it turned out there was no worries there. Both of the people are nice, down to earth, funny and intriguing and believe it or not they even dealt with my dry sense of humor without rolling their eyes.
I suppose finding a couple to meet that we share the same type of relationship style with is a good thing. But we were hoping to find actual friends that we had our relationship style in common with. From the first meeting it seems that is the case.
Sunday was a bit different, After some golf in the early afternoon and at the same time listening to our home town Lions suck, right up until the last 5 minutes of the game and pull out a big win against New Orleans, we went home and Mistress did some reading for work, I had some stuff to do as well, including ironing her clothes and laundry. She made dinner (which I usually do but what we were having was something she loves to cook) and the plan was for me to iron the clothes, do some cleaning until dinner then eat, clean up and relax for the rest of the evening. Mistress decided to change that plan. While dinner was cooking and I was upstairs taking care of the ironing she decided to put out Halloween decorations in our family room. While doing this she found that there was a larger build up of dust then she was expecting. Before dinner she had me kneel in front of her so she could speak with me. This always allows her to get my undivided attention and accentuate that what is saying isn't up for debate, she explained to me that she understood with the wedding, summer and just being busy that some things were hard to keep up with in regards to cleaning. She then told me that she decided that I needed to focus on cleaning more now and after dinner I could count on going back to work for a while. She also said that after work every day this week I would be spending time taking care of some of the details that have been lacking with regard to the housework until she is satisfied things are back to where they should be.
One thing I have to say is I love my life and my Mistress.
Honestly we didn't talk too much about things of the FLR nature as we were in a restaurant with others around. But I think that made it better in many ways. We were able to connect on regular life things instead of focusing on the common theme in our relationship.
Turned out to be an awesome time. Mistress really liked both of them and we are looking forward to meeting up again soon.
Was this surprising? In some ways not but there is also a part of me that was a bit concerned. My Mistress, although she can get along with many people doesn't do too well with people she finds less than genuine, especially women like that. As it turned out there was no worries there. Both of the people are nice, down to earth, funny and intriguing and believe it or not they even dealt with my dry sense of humor without rolling their eyes.
I suppose finding a couple to meet that we share the same type of relationship style with is a good thing. But we were hoping to find actual friends that we had our relationship style in common with. From the first meeting it seems that is the case.
Sunday was a bit different, After some golf in the early afternoon and at the same time listening to our home town Lions suck, right up until the last 5 minutes of the game and pull out a big win against New Orleans, we went home and Mistress did some reading for work, I had some stuff to do as well, including ironing her clothes and laundry. She made dinner (which I usually do but what we were having was something she loves to cook) and the plan was for me to iron the clothes, do some cleaning until dinner then eat, clean up and relax for the rest of the evening. Mistress decided to change that plan. While dinner was cooking and I was upstairs taking care of the ironing she decided to put out Halloween decorations in our family room. While doing this she found that there was a larger build up of dust then she was expecting. Before dinner she had me kneel in front of her so she could speak with me. This always allows her to get my undivided attention and accentuate that what is saying isn't up for debate, she explained to me that she understood with the wedding, summer and just being busy that some things were hard to keep up with in regards to cleaning. She then told me that she decided that I needed to focus on cleaning more now and after dinner I could count on going back to work for a while. She also said that after work every day this week I would be spending time taking care of some of the details that have been lacking with regard to the housework until she is satisfied things are back to where they should be.
One thing I have to say is I love my life and my Mistress.
Tuesday, October 14, 2014
Still feels different
So a month of marriage and things still feel a bit different.
I have set into a comfort zone knowing that she is permanently in charge, not that she wasn't before but the change has left us both with a comfortable and secure feeling I believe.
This Saturday we will be meeting up with friends. A similar couple to us, a dominant woman and submissive man. The two of us guys have met and grown a friendship but this will be the first time the girls meet each other, or either of us guys meet the others wife. In some ways I wonder how one treats the dominant wife of a friend. The easy answer is just as any other friend but there is that side of me that wonders if in time there would be some expectation to be somewhat obedient to her. Not the same as my Mistress but more in a sign of respect. I guess the next easy answer is to not think about things like that and let my Mistress decide things like that over time. Anyways it will be a fun time and I am looking forward to it.
Also recently I have been reading about some couples that live more extreme in their Female Led Relationship than us. One has separate bedrooms so that the woman may have free time with other men while he is safe and secure in a separate room, close enough to hear what is going on but far enough away to not bother her.
I have been thinking a lot about this lately. Not because what they are doing is wrong, no if they are both happy then more power to them. But more about a comment he made about not being able to touch his wife as she prefers others. I will say that that man is much stronger than me. I obey my wife but we are also best friends, if I was set aside and not wanted for love. If my wife wanted to be touched and loved but not by me and if I didn't get to feel the loving touch of my wife how would I react? I would be devastated. I am not sure if that is a sign of weakness on my part or not but I just couldn't handle it.
I suppose if there was ever a time where she wanted to experiment with someone else I would accept it, I obey her and want her to be happy, as long as we were still the inseparable twosome that we are. I can't stand to be away from her for a day let alone sleep in a separate room knowing she is close by but prefers to be with someone else.
I guess in the end we all have our own ways and things that make us happy. I know by reading what that guy said he is happy with the relationship but I can't see anyway I could be in the same type of relationship. When you have an unequal relationship a lot of thought and communication has to go into it to make sure each person is happy.
I guess the moral of this is that there are many different aspects of a female led relationship that make us all different, everyone has their ideas on what makes them happy and I know that what is good for us probably might not be the same for another couple. I am learning not to judge others and certainly haven't in this case but when you put yourself in anothers shoes wow it can be eye opening.
I have set into a comfort zone knowing that she is permanently in charge, not that she wasn't before but the change has left us both with a comfortable and secure feeling I believe.
This Saturday we will be meeting up with friends. A similar couple to us, a dominant woman and submissive man. The two of us guys have met and grown a friendship but this will be the first time the girls meet each other, or either of us guys meet the others wife. In some ways I wonder how one treats the dominant wife of a friend. The easy answer is just as any other friend but there is that side of me that wonders if in time there would be some expectation to be somewhat obedient to her. Not the same as my Mistress but more in a sign of respect. I guess the next easy answer is to not think about things like that and let my Mistress decide things like that over time. Anyways it will be a fun time and I am looking forward to it.
Also recently I have been reading about some couples that live more extreme in their Female Led Relationship than us. One has separate bedrooms so that the woman may have free time with other men while he is safe and secure in a separate room, close enough to hear what is going on but far enough away to not bother her.
I have been thinking a lot about this lately. Not because what they are doing is wrong, no if they are both happy then more power to them. But more about a comment he made about not being able to touch his wife as she prefers others. I will say that that man is much stronger than me. I obey my wife but we are also best friends, if I was set aside and not wanted for love. If my wife wanted to be touched and loved but not by me and if I didn't get to feel the loving touch of my wife how would I react? I would be devastated. I am not sure if that is a sign of weakness on my part or not but I just couldn't handle it.
I suppose if there was ever a time where she wanted to experiment with someone else I would accept it, I obey her and want her to be happy, as long as we were still the inseparable twosome that we are. I can't stand to be away from her for a day let alone sleep in a separate room knowing she is close by but prefers to be with someone else.
I guess in the end we all have our own ways and things that make us happy. I know by reading what that guy said he is happy with the relationship but I can't see anyway I could be in the same type of relationship. When you have an unequal relationship a lot of thought and communication has to go into it to make sure each person is happy.
I guess the moral of this is that there are many different aspects of a female led relationship that make us all different, everyone has their ideas on what makes them happy and I know that what is good for us probably might not be the same for another couple. I am learning not to judge others and certainly haven't in this case but when you put yourself in anothers shoes wow it can be eye opening.
Tuesday, October 7, 2014
First post after getting married
The last few weeks have been extremely busy with our wedding.
Finally things have settled a bit. The wedding was awesome, we had the best time and everything went perfect, the weather was also great.
Since the wedding things have got back to normal.
Last Thursday I received my first punishment post wedding day. I admit it had a different feel. Mistress was very nonchalant about the whole thing. To me it had the feel of her being in full power.
Most of the time I am told to lay over the bed because.....
This time she grabbed her crop, tapped the bed and said, "Lay down."
When I said, "Yes, Mistress, may I ask why?"
I was told, "Just do as your told." After it was over I received a reasoning but at the time she felt no need or desire to explain herself. This is a change for us and it made me feel secure. Like just follow and everything will be ok.
Also we went out to eat last night and when I ordered fries with my fish she interrupted and said, "Make that a baked potato for him." She has never done that before and again it gave me a good feeling, although slightly embarrassing.
Ok everyone, it's glad to be back. Have a good day.
Finally things have settled a bit. The wedding was awesome, we had the best time and everything went perfect, the weather was also great.
Since the wedding things have got back to normal.
Last Thursday I received my first punishment post wedding day. I admit it had a different feel. Mistress was very nonchalant about the whole thing. To me it had the feel of her being in full power.
Most of the time I am told to lay over the bed because.....
This time she grabbed her crop, tapped the bed and said, "Lay down."
When I said, "Yes, Mistress, may I ask why?"
I was told, "Just do as your told." After it was over I received a reasoning but at the time she felt no need or desire to explain herself. This is a change for us and it made me feel secure. Like just follow and everything will be ok.
Also we went out to eat last night and when I ordered fries with my fish she interrupted and said, "Make that a baked potato for him." She has never done that before and again it gave me a good feeling, although slightly embarrassing.
Ok everyone, it's glad to be back. Have a good day.
Wednesday, September 3, 2014
Woo, Sorry.
Wow, where has the time went. Been over a month since my last post. Busy times for sure.
Things are good Wedding is less than two weeks away. That has left no time for much of anything.
Preparations are coming along nicely but still it's not leaving time for much of anything else. Visitors coming in, kids staying with us so the empty nest we enjoy so much is temporarily out of order.
Its all good though, looking forward to the return of normalcy once the wedding is over.
Mistress and I talked about it and we are both really looking forward to the wedding day. AND Looking forward to it being over. Just a lot of stress dotting the I's crossing the T's.
I miss my submission. And Mistress' dominance. I wouldn't say its gone completely as it is always there between the two of us. Even when in a crowded theater.
I maybe not post before the wedding but will be back hopefully soon after.
thanks everyone.
Things are good Wedding is less than two weeks away. That has left no time for much of anything.
Preparations are coming along nicely but still it's not leaving time for much of anything else. Visitors coming in, kids staying with us so the empty nest we enjoy so much is temporarily out of order.
Its all good though, looking forward to the return of normalcy once the wedding is over.
Mistress and I talked about it and we are both really looking forward to the wedding day. AND Looking forward to it being over. Just a lot of stress dotting the I's crossing the T's.
I miss my submission. And Mistress' dominance. I wouldn't say its gone completely as it is always there between the two of us. Even when in a crowded theater.
I maybe not post before the wedding but will be back hopefully soon after.
thanks everyone.
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