Hi Everyone, well May was one of the busiest month's Mistress and I have had in our almost 6 years together, work is so busy that with the other things planned I really had no time to blog. June has come and things have slowed a bit, not slow but almost time to catch a breath.
This past week has found us with a pet that is in very bad shape and a really tough decision is coming soon, probably this week. A family member in the hospital and some other stressful things that just happen in life.
Add that all together and what normally looks like a well run Female led marriage doesn't really resemble that. Don't get me wrong she is still in charge but there is a much bigger focus on other things right now.
BUT that doesn't mean I get to skip out on my duties. If I have learned one thing better than anything else on this journey is when you are in this type of relationship, As the submissive I may not be in charge of the relationship but I am in charge of what I do and I need to make sure I do what needs to be done. I could see a submissive new to this lifestyle thinking that they might be able to skip on what they normally do when she isn't Mistress mode because there might no be the normal dominant personality showing thru from her side. But that is the time where its most important to realize that as the submissive now is the time to show her that you can still obey, still follow the rules without the supervision or the threat of punishment that might normally exist.
Being submissive in a marriage doesn't mean waiting for her to decide that its time to get things done. Sometimes the submissive must take charge (in a way) of the situation and make sure that things are cared for and the support role you play is fulfilled.
Times like this she needs your support more than ever. Think of it the other way around, if you are in charge and are stressed with things, would you want to have to the support structure that you are used to pulled from under you? Or would you want the knowledge that above everything else that is going on, you can always rely on that support from your sub. Of course you would want the latter. And as the submissive you need to be just that, you can obey her and be her rock all at the same time. You can make decisions and obedient to her wishes when the time occurs.
Lastly don't mope. I know how us submissive's are, we want attention, and yes being put in the corner because you didn't do the dishes when she wanted them done is attention. You hear those subs that say, "I want to serve without getting anything in return." That couldn't be further from the truth for most of us. We all have our reasons for wanting to be obedient to our significant others. Now would be a good time to practice how you can serve and enjoy the satisfaction of making a difficult time easier for both of you.
Especially knowing that sooner or later this will pass and she will reflect on this time and see if you are the submissive she can count on or if this is some game that when the going gets tough we shelve our submissive nature in the closet until another time.
