Holiday season, a time for fun, love and giving

So how does the holiday season tie in with living a female led relationship??

Well the simple answer is just like everyone else. Although if you are like us and have an empty nest living an FLR can be quite easy to do. When family and friends arrive though maybe some of the things that you might normally do have to be shelved from the view of others.

Obviously it shows that living an FLR isn't the most accepted way of living to the main stream world. While I know why this is the case I wish it wasn't. We have all girls for our children and I would love them to grow into having an FLR, I think its better for their self esteem, it improves their confidence and I do believe it makes their lives better and even safer. Although as we travel down this road one thing has become very apparent, just as every guy is not a good fit for an FLR neither is every girl. I can see in my own kids the ones who could live this way and which ones can't or wouldn't enjoy it.

I bring this up because as much as you would think it would be good to be honest and to explain the type of relationship we have to the kids there are many reasons not to. And certainly explaining it to the ones who could benefit from it and not the others isn't an option either.

So that leaves us hiding it, Not completely though, the girls know who is in charge, they even have joked about it from time to time,  but to what degree isn't shown or known.

So that brings me back to the holiday season, there is that part of life that is changed when the guests arrive, The not living life as usual aspect. But maybe in some ways its the same for everyone.

In a vanilla relationship, especially one where things aren't going great when guest come there is an act put on, maybe the guy is extra attentive while the guests are around where he isn't normally, maybe there is less "me" time and more together time when guests are around to show a goof face. I would assume that there are less times where the guy, or the girl, will go out with the friends after work to have a few if there are guests at home. So while us in a FLR have to change things, it appears after some thought that so do the vanilla people of the world when guests come.

Whatever the case the time is almost here for the guests to arrive and with them coming 2,000 miles there will be a lot more time together as a family rather than the times where they visit for a few hours, or come home and see friends while back in the neighborhood. I for one am looking extremely forward to the holidays this year and the time together as a family...and I will be looking forward to the return of our empty nest when its over.

I guess that makes the best of both world for us.

Have a great holidays everyone, whatever you celebrate I hope it is an awesome time of year for you and your families.