A great night, a great weekend

Saturday night Mistress and I met up with another couple who also enjoy a female led relationship. I have met the guy before so I knew we got along fine, but it was the first time either of the girls were present.

Honestly we didn't talk too much about things of the FLR nature as we were in a restaurant with others around. But I think that made it better in many ways. We were able to connect on regular life things instead of focusing on the common theme in our relationship.

Turned out to be an awesome time. Mistress really liked both of them and we are looking forward to meeting up again soon.

Was this surprising? In some ways not but there is also a part of me that was a bit concerned. My Mistress, although she can get along with many people doesn't do too well with people she finds less than genuine, especially women like that. As it turned out there was no worries there. Both of the people are nice, down to earth, funny and intriguing and believe it or not they even dealt with my dry sense of humor without rolling their eyes.

I suppose finding a couple to meet that we share the same type of relationship style with is a good thing. But we were hoping to find actual friends that we had our relationship style in common with. From the first meeting it seems that is the case.

Sunday was a bit different, After some golf in the early afternoon and at the same time listening to our home town Lions suck, right up until the last 5 minutes of the game and pull out a big win against New Orleans, we went home and Mistress did some reading for work, I had some stuff to do as well, including ironing her clothes and laundry. She made dinner (which I usually do but what we were having was something she loves to cook) and the plan was for me to iron the clothes, do some cleaning until dinner then eat, clean up and relax for the rest of the evening. Mistress decided to change that plan. While dinner was cooking and I was upstairs taking care of the ironing she decided to put out Halloween decorations in our family room. While doing this she found that there was a larger build up of dust then she was expecting. Before dinner she had me kneel in front of her so she could speak with me. This always allows her to get my undivided attention and accentuate that what is saying isn't up for debate, she explained to me that she understood with the wedding, summer and just being busy that some things were hard to keep up with in regards to cleaning. She then told me that she decided that I needed to focus on cleaning more now and after dinner I could count on going back to work for a while. She also said that after work every day this week I would be spending time taking care of some of the details that have been lacking with regard to the housework until she is satisfied things are back to where they should be.

One thing I have to say is I love my life and my Mistress.

Still feels different

So a month of marriage and things still feel a bit different.

I have set into a comfort zone knowing that she is permanently in charge, not that she wasn't before but the change has left us both with a comfortable and secure feeling I believe.

This Saturday we will be meeting up with friends. A similar couple to us, a dominant woman and submissive man. The two of us guys have met and grown a friendship but this will be the first time the girls meet each other, or either of us guys meet the others wife. In some ways I wonder how one treats the dominant wife of a friend. The easy answer is just as any other friend but there is that side of me that wonders if in time there would be some expectation to be somewhat obedient to her. Not the same as my Mistress but more in a sign of respect. I guess the next easy answer is to not think about things like that and let my Mistress decide things like that over time. Anyways it will be a fun time and I am looking forward to it.

Also recently I have been reading about some couples that live more extreme in their Female Led Relationship than us. One has separate bedrooms so that the woman may have free time with other men while he is safe and secure in a separate room, close enough to hear what is going on but far enough away to not bother her.

I have been thinking a lot about this lately. Not because what they are doing is wrong, no if they are both happy then more power to them. But more about a comment he made about not being able to touch his wife as she prefers others. I will say that that man is much stronger than me. I obey my wife but we are also best friends, if I was set aside and not wanted for love. If my wife wanted to be touched and loved but not by me and if I didn't get to feel the loving touch of my wife how would I react? I would be devastated. I am not sure if that is a sign of weakness on my part or not but I just couldn't handle it.

I suppose if there was ever a time where she wanted to experiment with someone else I would accept it, I obey her and want her to be happy, as long as we were still the inseparable twosome that we are. I can't stand to be away from her for a day let alone sleep in a separate room knowing she is close by but prefers to be with someone else.

I guess in the end we all have our own ways and things that make us happy. I know by reading what that guy said he is happy with the relationship but I can't see anyway I could be in the same type of relationship. When you have an unequal relationship a lot of thought and communication has to go into it to make sure each person is happy.

I guess the moral of this is that there are many different aspects of a female led relationship that make us all different, everyone has their ideas on what makes them happy and I know that what is good for us probably might not be the same for another couple. I am learning not to judge others and certainly haven't in this case but when you put yourself in anothers shoes wow it can be eye opening.

First post after getting married

The last few weeks have been extremely busy with our wedding.

Finally things have settled a bit. The wedding was awesome, we had the best time and everything went perfect, the weather was also great.

Since the wedding things have got back to normal.

Last Thursday I received my first punishment post wedding day. I admit it had a different feel. Mistress was very nonchalant about the whole thing. To me it had the feel of her being in full power.

Most of the time I am told to lay over the bed because.....

This time she grabbed her crop, tapped the bed and said, "Lay down."

When I said, "Yes, Mistress, may I ask why?"

I was told, "Just do as your told." After it was over I received a reasoning but at the time she felt no need or desire to explain herself. This is a change for us and it made me feel secure. Like just follow and everything will be ok.

Also we went out to eat last night and when I ordered fries with my fish she interrupted and said, "Make that a baked potato for him." She has never done that before and again it gave me a good feeling, although slightly embarrassing.

Ok everyone, it's glad to be back. Have a good day.